Sunday, December 17, 2006

10 Things I learnt in 2006

1. I underestimate myself, my powers, my capabilities, my intuition. I CAN'T is all I think sometimes. What if I make a fool of myself I ask? What if everyone laughs? So what, I now say. I owe it to myself to try, explore and simply, enjoy.

2. Letting Go. Letting go of dreams is not cowardly. It is important to realize that some dreams will be buried and I can't do anything about it. I can't be 24 again ever. But I am not going to waste the 30s wishing for the choices of 24.

3. Resilience is good but sometimes, calling for help is not a bad idea. I don't have to be strong or perfect all the time. It's okay to call a friend, it's okay that the house is a mess, it's okay that the attempt at fish curry didn't turn out that great. It's okay.

4. Breathing helps. Before taking stage, before losing temper, before saying words that can't be taken back.

5. I actually like football. Maybe just during World Cup. But there's so much drama and passion involved which I never knew. How else will a French Algerian kid who grew up in a council block (gorgeous one nevertheless) become a world recognized hero?

6. Time may not actually heal every wound. But I can lick them and snarl my way through when need be. That's the bitch in me.

7. I have fallen in love. With London. A surprise turn always makes me stumble into a new perspective, a half-smile, a charming little bookshop. We took sometime to warm to each other but this one's a keeper.

8. Sometimes it's a matter of KISS Keep it Simple Stupid. I've spent way too much of my life psycho analysing, reanalysing and then some more. But when I just stop and take one moment at a time, things often fall into place like a drawn curtain. Everything has a grand scheme to fulfil, only it's not my business to worry about that.

9. Compromise. I can live with a right wing Ayn Rand disciple and respect that (most of the time at least, hush my communitarian heart).

10. Amazon One Click is is going to leave me in financial ruin. It usually attacks me on late nights, when I am seized by a bout of self pity that I work so hard, etc, etc. I browse, pick and click. A few weeks later, a brown package appears and spreads a pang of guilt as it is shelved among all its other One-Click cousins. Increasing the pile of to-be-read-books.

What did you learn?

14 comments:

may said...

hi^5 with you on no. 5! LOL! it must've been World Cup fever that got me interested, for just that period of time. once every 4 years ain't too bad, yea?

MERRY CHRISTMAS!!

*HUGS*

starlight said...

Love your list. It's a big hint that 2007 is going to be a wonderful year for you. I'm going to do this on my blog too! By the way, I keep learning #1 every year, but I can't seem to do anything about it. What's your secret?

Anonymous said...

it's amazing, the little things we keep learning in life..and just when we thought we know it all :)

Mint Chutney said...

Very nice Jane. I especially loved #2.

Anonymous said...

Hi Jane, don't know if one could call this learning worthwhile. Well, I learnt that mince pies and I get along rather well and also, marmalade is rather lovely on my toast. Never did taste nice when I was in Melb. I wish I could say the same with #1 for me. I should learn to let my hair down. :(

kat said...

I learnt it's no fun sitting behind a computer reading about other people meeting new friends.. Why be a spectator when one can play, eh?

Happy Christmas and Happy Holidays, Jane Sunshine! Might I add it has been great reading your splenderful chronicles! More to come, ya?

bricks said...

1. there is more to life than a 9-6 job.
2. i can dance. got a champagne bottle for prize for my free style dancing
3. sooner or later, i have to learn to cook for myself
3. sooner or later, i have to cook for myself
4. sooner or later, i will have to eat what i cook
5. it is easier to belong in a party if u r drunk
7. i have been a procastinator
8. the most difficult part of starting something is "starting"
9. i missed point 7
10. no one noticed it.

Jane Sunshine said...

May: And what a gripping fever it was. Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year sweetheart!

Starlight: I will look forward to your list girl. About #1, there's no secret but what I do now is constant remind to keep in touch with my inner self and strength. After sometime, it becomes natural to draw on that. For a more articulate exploration of self, I recommend this fab blog: http://www.superherodesigns.com/journal/

Littlemissmuffet: Oh yes, there's something to be learnt everyday if we want to.

Mint: Goodness I've missed you. Where have you been???? #2 is the result of lots of growing up of late.

Dr.Ve Thru: Of course that's learning, important one at that. Marmalade on toast is a combination I love as well. With regards to #1, yes, it's never easy although its strange. We get to know so many people/things/places but sometimes don't know our own inner selves.

Kat: Play is another thing I forget as well. Cest la vie, eh! Thank you for reading and it has been a pleasure sharing my thoughts with you. Yes, more in 2007.

Bricks: That's a great list. Here's to a great 2007!!!

Anonymous said...

Jane!!! Have a GREAT New Year 2007!!! Yes, I heard it's brrrr cold, more reason to snuggle up in bed with a hot chocolate and a good book. Still miss the UK *sob sob* but shall be back in July even if it's for a week or two. So you be good and hope all the best things in life present themselves to you in 2007! Mwah! :)

bibliobibuli said...

i learned that kindness achieves far more than criticism

that making lists and sticking to them works for me

that i shouldn't feel i need to read faster than i want to and each book requires a different pace

and i'd also add the amazon one click thing to my list

merry chritmas and hope you have a great 2007

Anonymous said...

I learnt being an office worker sucks, and that graduate school, in retrospect, was quite fun! So, enjoy Jane S! :)

Anonymous said...

That I gotta see if Amazon One Click sends to Egypt. Bummer - you're gonna make me lose what little money I have left. Grumps. Happy New Year to you and M, sweets!! How was Paris??

Gravt Kills said...

i learnt not to trust people who wears toupee

Jane Sunshine said...

Lightbulb: Hope you got my msg.

Sharon: The things we learn reflect how we move on and mature as well doesn't it?

Basho: It's a matter of the grass being greener on the other side isn't it. Grad school is great but not getting paid is crap. Have a great 2007 Basho. It's been a delight getting to know you, if only virtually.

Blabs: May 2007 bring many joys, happiness and lots of magic for you and Mr.D, babes.

GravtKills: Interesting. Is it the artifice?